While you are abroad, you should remember the famous saying: “When in Rome, do as the Romans do”. Knowing the customs of the country you are visit, you can avoid some embarrassing situations and conflicts caused by misunderstanding. So, I’ll try to acquaint you with some simple rules of British etiquette, mainly when you communicate face to face.
If you are the link between people who have never met it is up to you to make the introductions. Never neglect to do so; it makes people very uncomfortable to be left standing on the periphery, while you engage in animated conversation with a stranger. If possible, offering a little information about each person as you introduce them will help to break the ice. Speak clearly and don’t mumble; you don’t want people to be left embarrassed. When you are introduced, the traditional response is ‘How do you do’. With younger people and in more informal settings you may prefer: ‘Hello’ or even ‘Hi’ but resist adding: ‘Pleased to meet you.’
Offering to shake hands is never rude. It may occasionally be somewhat impractical and if you are in doubt use your common sense and observe other people. As with all matters of etiquette the best manners do not draw attention to yourself, so to be the only one offering to shake hands on a very informal occasion or one where, for example, the people you meet are occupied or there is some kind of physical barrier, is disruptive and may be seen as attention-seeking.
A genuine compliment will suffuse the recipient with positive feelings. Don’t over-compliment – you will look like an insincere flatterer. A compliment on a haircut or dress will be much more appreciated than a generic and unimaginative ‘You are looking well’. Try and give the compliment in a timely manner. If someone pays you a compliment, smile and thank them graciously, and do not demur. Try to avoid the British and very female – ‘Oh this old thing’, a form of self-deprecation which can make the person paying you the compliment feel they have done the wrong thing and dent their confidence.
If you have forgotten some of these rules don’t worry: you should only be polite and friendly to other people.